We are now at the beginning of a New Year, so I thought it might be timely to speak about how Emotional Intelligence relates to motivation. We all know how New Year’s Resolutions can end up as the regrets of “Coulda, Woulda, Shoulda” and, although we often know what we need to do to achieve our goals, it’s the doing and the follow through that becomes the challenge.
In reality achieving success takes more than just knowing what to do, which represents Intellectual Intelligence (IQ), because having a sense of responsibility only goes so far. Emotional Intelligence (EQ) is equally, if not more, important if we are to take action and stay the course when it comes to goal achievement.
For example, we may set a goal to do more networking in the New Year to further our job search, career or business. We make plans, attend a networking workshop and even prepare our “elevator speech” (IQ) . However, successful networking requires us to also practice emotional intelligence (EQ).
Emotional Intelligence consists of four key components: Self-Awareness, Self-Management, Social Awareness and Relationship Management. Those with well developed EQ are better able to be self-aware of any hesitation they may have, and then to manage the stress of stepping out of their comfort zone. This assists them to fit into group situations they may otherwise be uncomfortable with, thereby contributing to building and maintaining strong interpersonal relationships.
One of the keys to keeping our New Year’s resolutions is to first practice self-awareness and figure out what motivates us personally. We are all different in this regard. For some, it could be the inner drive to improve and achieve, commonly known as intrinsic motivation. For others it could be the thought of making more money, a promotion, or even the threat of job loss. These are known as external or extrinsic motivators.
Intrinsic motivation comes from being passionate about what we do. Someone who loves their work will be engaged because their job gives them a feeling of accomplishment, purpose or a sense of belonging.
Setting goals requires us to be honest with ourselves and to come to terms with what really is important to us, and not simply what sounds good, or what others expect of us. Self-awareness is therefore a critical first step in becoming emotionally intelligent.
Before putting those New Year’s resolutions to paper then, perhaps a good place to start is to ask what it is we most value and what price we are prepared to pay to have what we truly want. Wishing you all a Happy and Successful New Year!
Next Article: Understanding Self Management…Coming Soon.
